Many couples walk down the aisle thinking they are
definitely going to have a blissful marriage and together they will live
happily ever after. Fantasizing life after marriage is going to be a bed of
roses and filled with happiness. They will have a loving spouse, wonderful
children and lead a life full of joy.
But, will all these just happen AUTOMATICALLY?
Marriage is the start of a new chapter in life. Life
transforms. Reality sets in. Household chores, tons of bills to pay, screaming
kids, sleep deprivation, exhaustion, sacrifices to make and changes to
lifestyle, are just very common.
What are the 5 common marriage problems that obstruct having a Happy Marriage?
Different Expectations
How well you know your spouse before getting married, makes
a difference. 2 unique individuals from different backgrounds come together to
form a family. With different upbringings, different mind sets and different
lifestyle habits, will likely result in a different set of expectations. How
should a household be run? How should children be brought up? How should
finances be managed? How should elders
in the family be treated? What is the ideal family life? What is expected from
the husband or wife? Expectations of both husband and wife need to be understood and couples need to compromise and work out something for the best for their family. Issues
need to be discussed and agreed upon. If not handled well, marriage problems may arise.
Conflicts
If couples can’t come to an agreement on issues, conflicts
are bound to happen. Husbands and Wives can’t see eye to eye. They insist on each
other’s point of view. Raising voices, throwing temper, being difficult,
threatening, uncontrollable emotions and hurtful actions. If only couples could
peacefully agree to disagree and tackle problems with emotions put aside, many
differences could be resolved.
Communication Breakdown
When you feel happy, everything seems to sound sweet. When
unhappiness sets in, just the sight of your spouse can make you angry. Any word
that your spouse says can lead to a heated up argument. Points can’t get
communicated across to the other party. Messages get distorted or misinterpreted.
Things being said are not being heard. Nagging starts so as to reinforce things
that have been said. Husbands and wives shout and scream at each other or
totally ignore what each other has to say. Communications become one way
traffic. Recipient does not get the message. After numerous quarrels, couples may end up
only speaking to each other when it’s absolutely necessary. If a communication
style that suits your spouse (visual, audio or kinesthetic) is adopted and matters
are handled objectively, communication may improve.
Lack Commitment
Frustration, unhappiness or suffering may cause a person to
give up on marriage. To stop trying or walk away. A can’t be bothered attitude,
I got more important things to focus on mind set, does not help a marriage
either. “The grass is always greener on the other side. I can get someone
better & have a happier life. Marrying this spouse of mine is a mistake, I
can find another gal/guy, divorce spouse, start afresh and be happier. I can
find true love outside while keeping my marriage.” Quoted are ALL WRONG!!! It
takes a committed and determined person to Do All It Takes, despite all odds, to
Rekindle Love, Save the Marriage, and Build a Strong and Happy Marriage.
Cheating, being in a romantic relationship with someone else
other than your spouse. An unhappy marriage may have driven a person to escape into
someone else arms for love. A dull and boring marriage may have caused a person
to seek excitement. If a person can’t resolve existing marriage problems,
finding a new person and starting afresh, may not really help. Similar problems
may arise again and the vicious cycle may repeat itself. There is no perfect
person.
To have a Happy Marriage is REALLY a CHOICE.
Honour the marriage vow you have made and build a Strong & Happy Marriage.
Honour the marriage vow you have made and build a Strong & Happy Marriage.
The Best Gift any Parent can give to your Children is a Happy Marriage!
